Death Folder
For years, I've thought about the mess I would leave behind if I die, and the fact that I have made zero preparations for that.
First and foremost, I need a sheet with names and contact information for my friends to be contacted in the event of my death.
I don't have kids so that's simple.
I have a little money (Never more than $500) and a few material belongings like my laptop and magic card collection.
I have sentimental belongings to dole out. I'd like to give one bear to each bestie, but I can't split them up, they're brothers. (I have other stuffies that can be split up)
I don't care about my clothes or purses or shoes or other incidental possessions.
I have many software projects, which, quite frankly, would die with me. But it would be nice if somebody could renew the domain names and hosting for a few years and keep them online.
I'd want my friends/family to find my digital photos (except the naughty ones lol).
I want my obituary to use they/them pronouns. I want to be recorded as the one who organized my city's first Pride Fest. I want to write a pseudo-eulogy for myself. I want my loved ones to write their own eulogies (if they please). I'm fine with a pastor conducting my funeral (I like my family's pastor), but don't want him doing all the speaking or making it a religious ceremony (I'm an atheist).
I want to have as eco-friendly of a postmortem as possible (is this cremation? or a "green" burial?).
I want my people to find my blog, and pick some of my writing to share at my funeral. I want my Letters To The Editor to be printed and shared at my funeral.
I'm not sure what I'd want done with my private journals. Let my mom and best friends read through them if they please. Warning: Shit's pretty unhinged at times, especially a few years ago when my mental/emotional systems were haywire.
I want my people to know how much I loved and appreciated them, even the people I'm no longer close to.