Re: One-Way Friendships
one-way meetings | hi... divaltor here
Often friendship turns into a one-way connection: there's someone who plans, calls, reminds others about themselves. Once they disappear — the connection breaks.
I had a "good" friendship like this once. Always initiating started to hurt. I started initiating less, and that hurt more. I just couldn't stand to pull back.
That friendship ended, after much toxicity (a lot of it coming from me).
It hurts. I miss them. But it's been awhile, so it's mild these days, and it's not constant like it once was.
Now I have better friends. And I have a more fulfilling life all-around. And I adjust my expectations when people don't meet them. (My expectations are not always fair or reasonable btw)
People gradually forget each other, as if years of communication were in vain.
Okay, but ... I did get to spend years of my life connecting with this friend, and enjoying their company, and in many ways they were a very good friend. No, it's not a lifelong friendship, no I'm not happy with how things turned out, but it wasn't for nothing. It was life, we were living. And personally, I've grown a lot as a person thanks to that friendship, and the hardship associated with it.
So **no*, it was not in vain. It was life.