Re: WILL IT EVER END?? (high school drama)
Kim there are people dying, and you're absolutely gobsmacked that Mary Sue is wearing the same dress as you to winter formal. ... why do we have to go back to elementary basics and learn to use our fucking words?
Communication is good. Do you talk to your friends about how much this drama upsets you? It sounds really stressful, sounds like you're really stressed.
I'd suggest taking a breath, saying that you want to talk about something that's bothering you, and then get into it. But try not to be so nasty about it when you're talking to them.
I'm nasty when I'm venting, too. But when you get to it, show them respect.
And ... Maybe try to understand where they're coming from. Kim was probably excited to go to winter formal in her cute dress and look absolutely stunning. Do you know how nice it feels to look good? Can you remember a time you were excited and then felt crushed? Do you understand why it hurt her?
And yeah, people have strong reactions to things, and often act like little shitheads. I do too. So did you, in your venting blog post. And that's okay. We are but human.
Things bother us, not necessarily because of their objective significance in the world ("Kim there are people dying"), but because we feel things. We are but human.
Is it not reasonable to act out when you feel angry? And yes, afterward, you wanna apologize, and work to grow, and try not to act out next time. But, you will sometimes. We are but human.
It may not ever end. It will change. We learn to react differently, our values change, and our feelings change. Our social support systems change, and our internal wiring changes. The teenage hormones and developing brain are gonna react differently than the 30-year-old "I been through this shit a dozen times" brain.
Be grateful that you have friends. Be grateful you get to support them through their struggles. Ask them for support through yours, and let them know that you struggle with the drama.
In the end, life is for livin, and we are but human.