White Supremacy is a spectrum
White Supremacy is about forcing everybody to live a certain kind of life - heterosexual, 2-parent household, be Christian, submit to the man of the house, be a patriot, hold certain cultural values, among others. Being served by people of color and women is part of the domination sought by White Supremacy, but oppressing poor whites is part of it too.
To be clear - being straight, Christian, a patriot, or wanting a "traditional" life with a consenting partner is not White Supremacy. As long as your values apply to your own life and you respect that others will live differently, and support their freedom to do so, then you're not a Supremacist.
You're not necessarily bad or evil for being on the spectrum. I certainly was as a teenager and young adult, and I didn't even know it. When I first saw people posting about "Black Lives Matter" in 2012, my reaction was to go on Facebook and post that "All Lives Matter". (I'd have probably been a #2 at that time, but this was a #3 act.)
I thought my country was past racism, that we had fixed it with Martin Luther King and the Civil Rights Act and the end of segregation. And rather than try to learn what BLM was about, I reacted, thinking it was anti-white, and opposed a modern civil rights movement.
My opposition - however ignorant, emotionally reactive, or well-intentioned - was a White Supremacist act.
So today I propose a spectrum of White Supremacy. If you find yourself on it, consider whether your position on the spectrum actually represents your values and what you want for the world. If not, then you need to reflect on your actions and opinions, and you need to learn about the things you oppose.
0 - Standing against White Supremacy with your vote, through discussions with friends and family, through protest, through advocacy in your workplace, by educating your children about America's Supremacist past, or through other means.
1 - Doing absolutely nothing to oppose White Supremacy. This allows it to fester and grow. You're part of the problem because you're not part of the solution. (Caveat: This is quite forgiveable if you are disabled or homeless or in an abusive relationship or facing some other hardship, in which case I might still class you as a #0.)
2 - Voting for White Supremacists for economic reasons or because you don't know they're White supremacists, falling for the fear-of-immigrants propaganda, falling for fear-of-gays propaganda, making excuses for White Supremacists, using slurs.
3 - Actively opposing measures that seek to end White Supremacy. (opposing Affirmative Action, opposing bills that improve access to voting, opposing bills that improve access to gender affirming care)
4 - Enacting or advocating for discrimination, segregation, suppression of civil rights, or suppression of speech about groups. (Trump, Charlie Kirk)
5 - Enacting genocide or advocating for genocide (Hitler, David Duke)
This list isn't perfect. If you're a #4 or #5, there's a good chance you're a bad person who wants to hurt or oppress others. If you're a #3, you might be an okay person who wants equality but you're on the wrong side and need to educate yourself. If you're a #2, then you probably are decent but need to educate yourself.
If you're a #1, then you also probably need to educate yourself more AND you need to get your feet in gear. Educating yourself can be very moving. Surrounding yourself with #0s can also be very moving.
If you're a #0, great job, keep doing what you're doing, don't burn yourself out, be kind and inviting and try to bring 1s and 2s into the fight against White Supremacy. You might even snag some #3s.
I think the #4s and #5s are a gross minority and they need to be opposed. I don't think there's any hope of converting them, and I don't think it's worth the effort.
And such a simplified list doesn't address how murky some things can be. Supporting a trans sports bans or opposing the right to choose abortion lands in #4. But you may be plenty progressive on other issues. Perhaps YOU aren't a #4 through-and-through, even if some of your positions are #4s.
Idunno. I don't have all the answers. I just made this shit up.